Inferiority complex is nothing – but escaping your internal child .Own, accept, embrace your child and you feel relieved

Do you often Feel?

This usually stems from the emotion of shame when you imagine how others perceive you. But these are not just emotional states — they are deep signals from a wounded inner child, trapped in the creative (right) brain hemisphere (تخلیقی دماغی پہلو).
Here, unresolved triggering factors stay alive in momentum, repeating like a stuck emotional loop.

Your emotional scar begins to form its own inner mind within this hemisphere — a mind that takes control over your thoughts. It prevents your energy from flowing towards the left hemisphere, which is responsible for logical and systematic thinking.

This weak link leads to a disintegration between both hemispheres, resulting in a weakened body, low self-esteem, and in some cases, a complete disconnect between brain and body.

At this point, you are no longer in control —but your inner wounded child is.
You may feel the urge to escape, avoid people, or at times, show controlling or lashing-out behaviour.

Psychological Roots:

Inferiority complex is not about your appearance, disability, or scars, but the way you perceive yourself — not from your own eyes, but through the imagined judgment of others.
You unconsciously develop a perfectionist standard — based on shape, color, deformity, or other outer traits — and begin to believe that anything less than ideal is unworthy.

But perfection is a quality of God (اللہ) — not of humans.

When you hold yourself to divine standards, shame grows. The brain’s emotional hemisphere locks down, making your body tense, resistant, numb, and stopping your ability to think with clarity (سوچنے کی صلاحیت).
You no longer embrace your scars — you run from them.

Real-Life Case Example :

A woman once visited me, gripped by oversenstive behaviour.

I asked her , Do you have any inferiority complex ? She screamed and acknowledged it owing to her weak eyesight and dark complexion (کمزور بینائی اور سانولا رنگ).

Situation 1:

I asked, “When you’re in the bathroom, alone and showering, do you feel vulnerable?”

She replied, “No, because no one is watching.”

I continued, “What if someone walks past or the door opens?”

She instantly tensed: “Then I become over-conscious. I feel like another eye is judging me.”

I gently told her:

“This is your wound — you live your life through the eyes of others, not your own.”

Situation 2:

Later i ask “If you lived alone on an abandoned island, would you shower freely in open space?”

She hesitated, “Not immediately.”

I said, “After two days?”

She shook her head.

“After twenty days?” I asked.

She smiled, “Yes, I would. Because no one would be watching.

And that’s the healing truth:

It wasn’t the complexion, the eyesight, or the scar — it was the imagined gaze of others that kept her ashamed.

Point to remember:

Healing comes from Integration but not disintegration.Healing comes with acceptance but not through escape.

Key point:

Thought can be changed, not the circumstances,

  • I offered her a metaphor: “If I give you an anti-anxiety tablet, will it reduce your tension?”
    “Yes,” she said.
  • I asked: Did the world around you change?
    “No,” she answered, Only my thoughts changed.

I concluded for better understanding:

Let’s not medicate it — let’s transform the thought that you’re being watched or judged. Let’s train your brain to see yourself with your own eyes — gently, with acceptance.

Resolution & Healing Insight

  • You can’t judge your worth through someone else’s gaze. It is against reality. You only find peace when you hot the reality. And reality is, that you have no right to judge any one or even yourself.
  • You can’t enter the domain of God خالق, who was never created and will never die — who sees without flaw.
  • The moment you stop escaping your scars, and instead own them, embrace them like your own child, you begin to heal.
  • You become flexible, calm, present, and stop needing validation or reward from outside.
  • You no longer seek perfection.
  • You become human. And in being human, you become whole and your relationship becomes wholesome.
  • You become in freedom, your tightened and stiff body releases and you become Flexible and open.
  • You stop controlling and feeling being entitled or seeking validation.
    Infact you stop being narcissist any more.