A person named Jhon reached out for assistance with his depression, stemming from the passing of his beloved wife. His profound attachment to her rendered it challenging for him to move forward, even with extensive medication. Despite his efforts, he found himself disempowered. Moreover, he experienced slight disorientation, hindering his ability to focus on professional tasks and causing anxiety while driving due to overwhelming thoughts and a deep-seated fear of death.
Energy Flow and Focus
Energy flows where your focus is directed. You have the power to guide your body and mind step by step, to a certain extent. You can move your fingers and toes and lift one leg. You lack the authority to raise both legs simultaneously. You possess the ability to choose the type of land to plough, sow, and water your plants. You can nurture your relationships, understanding, and present needs. You can dedicate yourself to studying and focusing on your learning and preparations.
Limitations of Control
You do not hold the power to prevent excessive rain, avert natural disasters, or control the timing of a loved one passing. You do not possess control over the examination process; that domain rests with the examiner. Unrealistic attempts to exert authority and defy natural principles result in anxiety, fear, self-destructive tendencies, depression, and distressing thoughts.
Physical Engagement for Empowerment
I engaged him in physical activities, directing him to stand and open his arms. We proceeded to move his fingers one by one for both hands. Shifting his attention, I asked him to focus on his feet and thrust his toes individually, which he successfully accomplished. I then instructed him to lift one leg, and he complied. However, when I prompted him to raise both legs simultaneously, he was rightfully unable to do so. In response, I explained that energy follows focus, persisting as long as authority and empowerment align.
Understanding Fate, Luck, and Destiny
I elaborated on the concepts of Fate, Luck, and Destiny. We often confuse these terminologies as one, but they are quite distinct from each other. Fate encompasses your physical resources and resourcefulness. You possess intuition, intellect, initiative, willpower, dedication, determination, and engagement to connect, create, and perform to confront the challenges. Comparable to a farmer’s resources such as land, fields, water, and seeds, your blessings manifest uniquely. In your case, God blessed you with a kind and loving wife.
The Role of Luck and Death in Destiny
Luck embodies the power and authority to nurture (or put in the effort) your pursuits using the resources in the allotted lifetime available to you. It symbolizes your capability to shape a life together with your partner, expressing love, care, and kindness, resulting in her attentiveness and enthusiasm as she understands the concealed and profound connection and unity between you both. This bonding is achievable when both partners resonate at the same frequency, sharing energy. However, death abruptly severs this connection and disunites you, and the other partner transcends for a higher good. For destiny, it belongs to God. You are not responsible for the destiny of your partner. This over-responsibility is creating unrest in the mind.
Acknowledging Fear of Death
Considering the prospect of encountering God and being in the company of the force that granted us existence, I clarified that death acts as a passage to connect with our creator. Every living thing must die. It signifies moving past the surface of the physical realm and embracing the profound essence of the universe, returning to its origin. As a believer, you would desire to experience God’s presence, surrendering yourself to that limitless entity. Only death stands as a barrier, temporarily postponing this meetup.
Take-Home Message
Emotional turmoil arises from resisting the reality of life and death. Understanding that we can control only certain aspects of life, like our actions and responses, helps alleviate anxiety. While we cannot control fate or destiny, accepting that certain events are beyond our control—such as death or the course of life—can bring peace. Letting go of resistance to what is and aligning with reality is the path to emotional healing.